Why going against your inner critic doesn't work in the long-term

When dealing with an inner critic part that judges you for not being good enough, for not doing something right, not being perfect etc. the usual advice is to either go against this, ignore or resist it so that it doesn't take over.

While this may work at times, it is usually only temporary and it often takes so much effort just to push through, that it feels like you're swimming against the current, which can leave you feeling exhausted.

When you get to know an inner critic part instead of going against it, this melts the resistance and increases your inner understanding of how these parts are essentially trying to help you out in some way as they are not actually against you, they just don't know any other way.

By understanding them more, you can then offer them support and update your system with new information that would mean they don't have to carry the burden of having this tiring role anymore, especially to that extend.

If the concerns of these parts are not addressed at their root, they will become even louder if you ignore them, since these parts have an important role in your system and they want to be heard and acknowledged.

Inner critic parts usually hold old programmings and don’t yet know that they don’t have to hold their role so strongly anymore - but this is where you come in to offer support from a compassionate and understanding place that benefits these parts and your whole system.

That's why I created a guided inner process which you can do in your own time, designed to help you connect with your inner critic in a more compassionate and constructive way so they can help you move forward with more ease.

You can find this practice in the self-paced mini workshop "Working With Your Inner Critic" where you can follow it in your own pace and time.