What is affecting the way we interact with others? In the encounters of our everyday life, whether this is when meeting new people or people we know, we might be reserved before we interact with them and wait for them to set the ground for our interaction. If they are warm and open towards us, we feel it’s safe to do the same back to them and if they are not, we might not open up at all. But what if they were thinking in the same way that we are? Then they would also be hesitant to show us warmth as they would be waiting to see what signals we will put out. In the end we might have lost a chance for connection with the other person purely because we were depending on them to determine our interaction. In such cases we can determine the ground ourselves by choosing to be open and warm regardless and if it does not get met from the other side we can accept that and understand that it doesn’t have to do anything with us. What we can gain from this is increased chances for connection with relationships rather than waiting for others to control whether we will get connected or not. In other cases, we might be letting our interactions with others be defined depending on our moods. If we are feeling in a bad mood we may be abrupt or closed towards people or even accuse them for our mood which we had from earlier on. If we feel in a happy mood we may be warm with them and open. This inconsistency confuses others and does not help to create a true and deeper connection with them. When we get to know ourselves and understand our emotions and feelings we learn to not let them control us and our relationships with others and we increase the chances for connection. 💫
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