What is the reason behind our unhelpful habits?
Do you often find yourself getting carried away by activities that don’t serve you in achieving your goals? I am certainly guilty of that, finding myself getting distracted by notifications on my phone, messages coming through and the feel that I need to reply straight away.. This more often than not, drives me away from getting the activities that I want to do and then I feel frustrated for devoting so much time in things that don’t necessarily serve me since I can devote a predetermined time to check on my phone and notifications etc. But why even though we might know intellectually that certain habits don’t help us, we find ourselves still doing them? When this happens, the activity we are choosing to do usually serves a deeper purpose for us. For example, for me the hours that I spent on my phone I realised they fill in the void of connection that communicating with others gives me. Such habits can be anything that gets in the way from getting where we want in life. It could be overeating when we are trying to be healthy, retreating when we are experiencing an argument instead of dealing with it, reaching to sweets for comfort etc. We tend to turn to these habits to fill something inside of us that we are missing at that time. Being negative towards ourselves because we have unhelpful habits certainly does not help us go through them as we fall into a self-shaming cycle and trap ourselves in that. Understanding ourselves and the reasons behind why we do what we do can give us answers to many questions which go far beyond easy to give negative tags of “I’m not good at this”, “It’s just who I am”, “I am faulty” etc. Once we understand what it is we are trying to achieve with these activities, we can then try to find healthier ways to deal with the root that is causing them and therefore direct our energy more effortlessly to what is supporting our goals in life. 🌟